If you are new around here, Welcome to FOR THE BRIDE TO BE, a series of posts dedicated to the newly (or not) engaged friends, with the purpose of sharing tips and stories to help you enjoy every step of the way towards the big day!
This time, I’m sharing my adventures of finding my wedding dress. If you want to catch up with the previous posts, you can start HERE.
Now let’s go shopping!
If you are anything like me, you watch “Say Yes to the Dress” almost every day since the day you got engaged. Well, maybe not, not judgments here, lol.
Way before being engaged, I was looking through a wedding magazine and found “the perfect” wedding dress, or so I thought. I remember telling my mom that that was the dress I was going to wear for my wedding.
A few months later, I said YES to (my now husband) Chris, and I could not stop thinking about that beautiful Rosa Clara gown I saw on the magazine, so I made an appointment to get it!
Back to “Say Yes to the Dress”, you know how in the show every bride goes along with their mothers, sisters, friends, and everybody else who they feel will be helpful for the task of choosing your dress, and how there’s such a drama to agree on one single dress, etc.? Well I had a plan, and it included no drama at all!
I decided to go to my first wedding dress shopping appointment by myself. Yes, I went alone!
I did not tell anybody about it, I made my appointments and headed to the store, and it was probably the best decision ever.
The fact is, I like to go shopping alone, and I’m talking about going to the mall and shopping for clothes, shoes, etc. So, why would I do this different? .
Appointment number one. I got to put on the “perfect dress”, , the one from the magazine, on. Then, I turn around and I DO NOT LIKE IT AT ALL!
That dress was not doing anything for me, no excitement, no uniqueness, no nothing. I took it off and tried like ten more. No luck!
I can’t remember how many places I went, or how many dresses I tried on; there wasn’t that many I promise. One day, I went to “GAUDI” (a wedding store in Panama City), and as I was selecting dresses to try on, the lady who was taking care of me suggested a dress for me to try. “No thanks! It’s not my style, and I don’t see myself in it” I said.
But, she insisted and so glad she did! When I tried it on I felt so much like a bride, and so I knew this one was more like the perfect dress than any other!
I wasn’t ready to commit, though, so I selected the best three and invited my mom (yes, only my mom) to the next appointment, and after trying the three finalists we agreed that the one I thought wasn’t anything like me, was the right one!
After being sure about it, I invited my sisters to the next appointment, and it was all smiles and excitement!
So, here is my advice:
1. Allow yourself to have some privacy in the process of choosing a dress. I know it is exciting and fun to share that moment with your loved ones, but it can also be overwhelming, especially if you have no clue about what you are looking for!
2. Try on styles you think you’ll love, and also try on styles you think you won’t. Nothing looks the same in two different bodies. Give yourself a chance, you never know what dress you are gonna rock!
And 3. Don’t be afraid of saying NO to ideas you don’t like, it is going to be your (and your fiance’s) big day so it’s important that you feel comfortable and beautiful!
Thanks for reading and letting me share my experience with you. I can’t wait to see you in your “perfect” dress!!
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